How to Know What a Guy Is Thinking


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Your Guide to How Men Think

I’m going to give you a very simple lesson in this article and video that sadly, so many of you women are getting wrong.

It’s causing you more pain and heartache than you could ever have imagined.

And worse, it’s making everyone around you so frustrated because they can see what the guy you’re dating is all about…and you are blind to it.

Okay, I’m about to give you some crazy simple advice and you will be amazed that you didn’t realize it earlier.


The way to know how men think is to stop listening to their words and start paying attention to their actions.

What he does is a much better indicator of what he’s thinking than what he says.

You know the saying, “actions speak louder than words.” I’d like to rephrase that idea to say: “actions are the only thing that matter in that words mean nothing”…but I guess that’s not as catchy.

I just want you to really get this: his words mean nothing when his actions are the complete opposite. He can whisper all the sweet nothings he wants in your ear, but if he’s canceling dates or blowing you off, you’ve got to pay attention to those signals, not his words.

Is He Making Time to See You?

When we like someone, we want to be with them, to spend as much time with that person as possible. A man who really cares about you isn’t just texting when it’s convenient…saying he’s swamped at work…or spending more time with his male buddies than you.

Understand that this is how men think. If he’s not really invested in you emotionally, he won’t make the effort to spend time with you.

Is He Opening Up to You?

Vulnerability is a huge part of a successful relationship. In this case, it may be both actions and words that indicate how he feels about you.

Just as important as vulnerability is trust in a relationship.

Remember that trust is a two-way street: you may be so focused on figuring out if you can trust him (especially if you have a history of being betrayed in past relationships), but he is also figuring out if he can trust you.

How will you know if he does? Look for a lot of the signs that he’s being vulnerable with you as well as things like giving you a key to his house, leaving things at your home like his toothbrush, or taking a trip with you.

Is He Spending Time With You Outside of Having Sex?

If you’re enjoying life outside of the bedroom, that’s an indicator he cares about you!

This is a really strong signal for what men think: if you only see this man late at night and you do little more than have fun between the sheets and maybe a little pillow talk after, he’s not interested in being in a relationship with you.

Is He Including You in His Life?

If he’s introducing you to friends, he wants you in his life.

Another way his actions communicate what he feels about you is whether he is bringing you into his world. Has he introduced you to friends or family? Invited you to his weekly soccer match with the guys? Introduced you to his dog?

Let me leave you with one final thought:

People lie, but actions don’t.

If his actions aren’t aligning with his words, tell him this: You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.

In the comments below, tell me an example of how a man SAID one thing but DID another. What was your response?

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