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How To Compliment A Man – 5 Secrets
Complimenting a man can seem like a real tricky feat to accomplish. For many women, they resist complimenting men because they believe that men already have egos that are too big.
The reality is something else entirely…
You see, men may seem all egotistical on the surface, but it’s a ruse.
Yeah, you may have heard this one before, but the male ego is quite fragile. We bluff and bluster, but it really all amounts to a giant show…
For YOUR benefit!
Men do the ego thing to show the qualities that women are attracted to. Like leadership… decisiveness… confidence… courage.
These are all things that SEEM like a man being egotistical if you’re not understanding what he’s really doing underneath it all.
And you need to know how to compliment a man right so that he keeps doing the right things, without shutting down his natural desire to impress you.
So let me explain a bit about how to compliment a guy so that he really responds to you. After all, that’s the stuff that love is made of…
How To Compliment Him – SECRET 1: Avoid Compliment Blindness…
Women are very responsive to what I like to call “spot compliments.” That means those things that are easily observed about their appearance. Especially if done with sincerity.
“Oh, those shoes are awesome…!”
“That dress fits you so well…”
“I love that hairstyle!”
Men love these compliments, too. But we are more responsive to what I call “inspiration” compliments. And often women ignore what he was inspired by and come across sounding ungrateful.
For example, if he gets you a weird present, the worst thing you could do is to trash his decision making ability.
She says: “What in the world made you think that I’d like this?”
That right there is a triple-play of hurt for a guy. For her to say something like that means that:
She doesn’t appreciate his thought – because love was what inspired him…
She doesn’t appreciate his action – because that was effort for him…
She doesn’t appreciate. Period. And that means he got NO credit.
Now, I don’t think that you would ever likely respond to a man that way. And if you have, you probably know this is not a very loving way to respond.
But just as important is knowing how to make a genuine compliment for him – especially if you were a little disappointed or let down! This is one of the key success abilities in couples that respect each other and stick together.
Remember that love is also about recognizing that we rarely ever do anything to hurt our partner. We may act selfishly, but unless the feelings are all gone from the relationship, we’re not trying to deliberately cause them pain.
How To Compliment Him – SECRET 2: Compliment The DEEP…
When I say “The Deep” – I mean that you should compliment the thing that’s most hidden about what he did or said.
When a guy does something that is thoughtful, he’s less concerned about the result being complimented than the thinking and action that was behind it.
For example, let’s say he does the usual guy thing of trying to fix your problem instead of just listening to you vent, like your girlfriends do.
What do you do?
Most women get a little frustrated (sometimes a LOT frustrated.) And then they end up feeling resentment that he “isn’t there for them” the way they want him to be. And very often, this drives a wedge between…
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