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What Do Men Like In Bed? 7 Secret Tips
I recently received this email from a student of mine:
I’ve been dating this guy for a few weeks (we’re on official date number 3 this weekend…)
Since I’m expecting that we’re probably going to sleep together, what I want to know is what he expects from me.
I don’t want to disappoint him…
Tina L., Sarasota Florida
Well, Tina – if you’re looking for a super wild sex tip that will rock his world…
There’s something you should know first: If you are on date number 3 – that does NOT mean you need to sleep with him.
A lot of women (and men) think that there’s this unwritten contract out there that if you make it to Date #3 you have to give it up. And that seems to me more like a negotiated settlement than a natural way to handle your relationship.
When I was actively dating, I made it a point to let the woman know that I don’t adhere to timelines or expectations. In fact, she might just have to wait a few MORE dates to jump in the sack, because I’m not in a rush.
One woman I dated for about 6 months told me after the “magical” date that she had worn her black knee-high boots because she wanted to “seal the deal.”
Look, if it takes 5 dates to get comfortable, then you need to hold to your own limit.
If it’s for real, he will have no trouble waiting.
Again, I get a lot of emails from women that feel that if they don’t give it up quick, some other woman will move in and steal him away.
If he’s so easily swayed by the scent of “eau de bedroom” – by that other girl’s easy sex – then your relationship would not have lasted anyway.
Sure, go ahead and try to make yourself think that your hoo-hoo is magical, but I’ll tell you right now, it ain’t. (And neither is hers… or hers… or hers…)
Yes, eventually sex will have to happen. But it’s what you bring to the relationship in your attitude and your heart that makes him stay.
Okay, so let’s jump in and reveal the 7 secret tips to what men like in bed:
Secret Tip 1: He likes it when you laugh…
Look, everyone’s so weird on that first sleepover that I’m amazed that anyone makes it to the next date sometimes.
You have to have some fun with your sexy time. Giggling is a great way to let a guy know you’re enjoying yourself.
Which is OUR biggest fear in bed – that we’re not making you happy.
Show him a smile and have some fun and you’ll both breathe a huge sigh of relief – AND have a lot more fun in the sack.
Secret Tip 2: He likes it when you’re enthusiastic…
I’ve had a few partners in the past that were so quiet and unemotional in the sack that I thought I was doing something wrong.
The more excited and enthusiastic you are with us during the horizontal bop, the more we feel virile and manly.
If you want a great example of what men like to see in attitude, look no further than adult movies and videos. It’s not always LITERALLY what you’re seeing there on the screen. It’s more about the ATTITUDE of the women in the scenes.
You’ll see that the women are not afraid to let the guy know how much they want HIM.
That’s every man’s secret fantasy – just like yours: He wants to be desired by you completely in that moment.
Secret Tip 3: He likes it when you’re vocal, but soft-spoken…
Okay, this one is sure to raise some hackles…
Let me begin by saying that I do NOT mean that you should be a “quiet, submissive woman.”
What I’m talking about is a man’s desire for a woman who understands how to be assertive – and demure – while being POLITE.
This is one of those things I notice in couples these days – a kind of disrespect that feels like both partners just binge-watched “Married With Children” or some other show that glorifies the “angry relationship.”
So when it comes to the bedroom, he wants you to speak up and:
– Tell him what you want…
– Tell him what you don’t want…
– Be gentle with your corrections – when he’s “doing it all wrong”
Just do it in a gentle way that doesn’t feel like impatience, scolding, or downright insensitivity. Because he won’t tell you this, but:
If a man gets bad or insensitive treatment in bed, he’ll immediately UN-commit from your relationship.
Secret Tip 4: He likes it in bed when you’re …
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